英語社交語言

2024-05-17 好文

　　Social Talk 社交語言

　　Social ocassions for conversation range from small comfortable gatherings like a dinner party among friends to big, intimdating crowd scenes like a Washington cocktail party. In between are events like weddings and Bar Mitzvahs． Each one is different but the principles of conversation are the same： be open, find the common ground with your partner, and always listen.

　　社交場合有大有小,小的有溫馨舒適的三五個朋友間的聚餐晚會,大的有聚者蕓蕓的華盛頓雞尾酒宴,不大不小的有婚禮和成年儀式。場合雖有不同,但交談準則卻是一致的：坦率、尋找你和談話對象的共同點、隨時注意傾聽。

　　The Greatest Question of All Time

　　Remember, asking questions is the secret of good conversation.I''m curious about everything and if I''m at a cocktail party I bring that curiositv with me. I often ask my favorite question："Why？" If a man tells me that he and his family are moving to another city："Why？" A woman is changing jobs："Why？" Someone roots for the Mets："why？"

　　On my television show I probably use that word more than any other. It is the greatest question ever asked, always will be and it is certainly the surest way of keeping a conversation lively and interesting.

　　最佳話題

　　記住,提問是促成良好談話的秘訣。我對任何事物部覺得新鮮有趣,參加雞尾酒宴也不忘帶上好奇心。“為什么”常常是我偏愛的問題。如果有人告訴我,他家要搬遷到另一個城市了,為什么呢？一位女士跳槽了。為什么呢？有人為棒球隊而狂熱。又是為什么呢？

　　在我主持的電視節目中,“為什么”這個字眼使用的頻率是最高的。這個問題永遠有新意,絕對是保證談話生動有趣進行的法寶。

　　How to get out of a Conversation

　　If you find yourself stuck with a real bore and simply feel it''s time to end a long conversation and move on, there''s always one guaranteed way to get out of the conversation."Excuse me, I gotta go to the rest room."

　　If you make it sound urgent enough, no one will take offense at your departure, When you come back start another conversation, Only this time

　　with someone else.Or if you spot Someone you know nearby you can make your escape with,"Staceys have you met Bill？" As Stacey is shaking hands with Bill you can say！"I''ll be back in a minute, but I know you two have a lot to talk about."

　　At a busy cocktail party, they won''t be surprised if you don''t come back in a minute. Of course if your first conversation partner is a killing bore, Stacey may never forgive you. So use this technique with caution.

　　怎樣從交談中脫身

　　假如你發覺自己已經陷入一個乏味之極且無邊無際的話局,有必要侍機結束,那么有一個辦法是百無一失的。“抱歉,我要去一趟洗手間。” 這句話如果能說得迫不及待,沒人會對你的離席表示不滿。回來后你盡可另辭新話題,不過這一回要更換新的談話對象。又或者你想把一個熟人撂開, 可以藉口說：“史戴西,你認識比爾嗎？”在史戴西與比爾握手時,你說： “我一會兒就回來。不過我知道你們倆會有許多共同的話題。”

　　在一場熱鬧的雞尾酒宴上,你就算遲遲不回他們也會不以為意,當然了, 假如你前面的談話對象非常索然無味的話,史戴西也許將永遠不能原諒你。因此,使用這個辦法時務必要謹慎。

　　Talk between Sexes

　　Talk between the sexes especially between two people who just met may be the hardest form of talking． It is for me. When I was dating in high school and into my 20s and 30s, it was a serious no, no for a girl even to call a boy or a woman to call a man on the telephone, It just wasn''t done. Your parents would tell you,"Nice girls don''t call boys. Boys call them,"But they didn''t really have to tell you that． The girls wouldn’t call you anyhow.

　　In those days a strict unwritten code governed how young men and women behaved toward each other. Members of the opposite sex never gave each other clothes as gifts, not even a sweater, Well maybe a necktie or a pair of gloves． Anything else was considered much too personal. Good book． Nice wallet． Nothing more intimate than that． Young men and women certainly never took overnight trips to the beach or anywhere else, even with their steadies and the code word said, don''t call him. He''s supposed to call you."

　　與異性交談

　　在異性之間,尤其是在初遇者之間展開談話可能是最難的。對我來說是這樣,我從在中學約會起直到二、三十一為止。無論是女孩給男孩打電話還是女人給男人打電話都是不可以。絕對不可以的。你的父母會告訴你：“好女孩是不給男孩打電話的,應該是男孩打給她們。”不過她們也未必就真會告訴你。女孩總是不給你打電話。

　　那個時候有不成文的條例嚴格規范男女問的行為舉止,異性間不能互贈衣物,甚至毛衣。領結扣手套或許還可以。其他諸如好書、質地優良的錢包都被列為私人物品,沒有比這更能表示親呢的東西了。年輕男女不應到海灘或別的地方外宿,哪怕是和自己的男女朋友去。規定是：“不要給他打電話,該讓他打給你。”

　　現在這些禁忌已成為過眼云煙。

　　對于初遇者尤其是異性問的淡話,我的建議是,要盡早在談恬中多了解對方,使他們對你愛好的領域產生興趣,保持你談話的自然風格,假如你是個機智恢諧的談話音,看看她是否也一樣,如果你是位嚴肅的女士,看看他是否同樣,假如你關心政治,熱愛體育、電影。或是都喜歡,看看他是否也喜歡。若他或她與你不問．在興趣方面大相徑庭,禮貌地給自己找一個借口走開。在別處肯定還有你更喜歡。

　　Today all those thtaboos are history.

　　My advice in meeting people and especially in talk between the sexes is to learn as much as you can about the other person as early in the conversation as possible. Engage them in areas that you''re interested in and stick to your natural conversational style. If you''re a witty bantering sort of talker．see if she is too. If you''re a woman who is on the serious side, see if he is.If you like politics, or sportS or movies, or all of the above, see if he does, If he or she is not like you, and isn''t interested in the subjects that interest you, excuse yourself politely and then move on. There''s bound to be someone else in the room that''s more fun for you to talk to.

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